Graeme Cowan, ‘R U OK’ Cofounder, Posts Suicide Note after Battling Depression

“You don’t need to be an expert but letting someone be heard and being present with someone can help.”


Graeme Cowan, the co-founder of “R U OK,” a suicide prevention charity in Australia, is recalling his darkest day when he penned down a heart-wrenching suicide note after battling depression almost 15 years ago.

Earlier this week, on the World Suicide Prevention Day, Cowan revealed his long battle with major depression and posted a picture of his suicide note on Facebook.

Recently, on Facebook, he wrote, “It was insane thinking – but it seemed logical at the time. Fifteen years later, I have a blessed and meaningful life. It is why I am so passionate about R U OK? and creating caring and resilient workplaces. I know that crises pass – and recovery – and even blessings can follow.”

“If anyone out there has lost hope – please let someone know. Please make an appointment with your doctor or psychologist or call a helpline. Just take one step today,” continued Cowan. “If you suspect a loved one is in distress or lost hope – trust the signs – trust your gut – ask R U OK? – A conversation could change a life.”

His post has gone viral and has been shared to over 70,000 people across the world.

In July 2004, Cowan was convinced that he would not be able to recover from major depression, driving him to commit suicide.

Cowan’s suicide note reads:

“My dear family,
After four long years of battling this illness I just can’t take it anymore. I feel I have tried everything and just can’t see anything but a depressed future.
I would like to thank everyone for the love and care you have all shown me. I couldn’t ask for anything more.
Please don’t blame yourselves in any possible way for this as there is nothing possibly that you could have done.
Love always, Graeme.
P.S. I just can’t be a burden any longer.”

Luckily, Cowan’s family saved his life after they found his unconscious body with the suicide note lying next to him.

R U OK was founded in 2009, which encourages people to seek help if they are struggling with any kind of mental health issues.

Chief Executive of R U OK Katherine Newton said, “It absolutely does make a difference. You don’t need to be an expert but letting someone be heard and being present with someone can help.” “Even if they are saying ‘I’m fine,’ just point out the changes you may have noticed … and maybe see if there’s someone else they would be willing to speak to if not yourself,” added Newton.